Being Sheep

"I am the good shepherd; I know my sheep and my sheep know me— just as the Father knows me and I know the Father—and I lay down my life for the sheep."John 10:14-15

Thursday, December 30, 2010

12 Days of an Adoptive Family's Christmas

You may have seen the video here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xaD8xat6VDw of the "12 Days of a Large Family Christmas." If you haven't, you should check it out--it's funny!

So I was thinking this morning about an adoption version and decided to write it up for fun. All of these are questions or comments we've actually gotten about our adoption. :)

On the first day of Christmas a well-meaning person said to me: “Why Ethiopia?”

On the second day of Christmas a well-meaning person said to me: “How much did he cost?” and “Why Ethiopia?”

On the third day of Christmas a well-meaning person said to me: “Didn't you want a girl? How much did he cost? Why Ethiopia?

On the fourth day of Christmas a well-meaning person said to me: “Wow his hair is curly! Didn't you want a girl? How much did he cost? Why Ethiopia?”

On the fifth day of Christmas a well-meaning person said to me: “You're just like Angelina! Wow his hair is curly! Didn't you want a girl? How much did he cost? Why Ethiopia?”

On the sixth day of Christmas a well-meaning person said to me: “Couldn't you have gotten a puppy? You're just like Angelina! Wow his hair is curly! Didn't you want a girl? How much did he cost? Why Ethiopia?”

On the seventh day of Christmas a well-meaning person said to me: “Why was he given up? Couldn't you have gotten a puppy? You're just like Angelina! Wow his hair is curly! Didn't you want a girl? How much did he cost? Why Ethiopia?”

On the eighth day of Christmas a well-meaning person said to me: “Where is his real mom? Why was he given up? Couldn't you have gotten a puppy? You're just like Angelina! Wow his hair is curly! Didn't you want a girl? How much did he cost? Why Ethiopia?”

On the ninth day of Christmas a well-meaning person said to me: “He looks like Obama! Where is his real mom? Why was he given up? Couldn't you have gotten a puppy? You're just like Angelina! Wow his hair is curly! Didn't you want a girl? How much did he cost? Why Ethiopia?”

On the tenth day of Christmas a well-meaning person said to me: “So now you must be done? He looks like Obama! Where is his real mom? Why was he given up? Couldn't you have gotten a puppy? You're just like Angelina! Wow his hair is curly! Didn't you want a girl? How much did he cost? Why Ethiopia?”

On the eleventh day of Christmas a well-meaning person said to me: “Does he have AIDS? So now you must be done? He looks like Obama! Where is his real mom? Why was he given up? Couldn't you have gotten a puppy? You're just like Angelina! Wow his hair is curly! Didn't you want a girl? How much did he cost? Why Ethiopia?”

On the twelfth day of Christmas I graciously replied:

“That's a very personal question!”

“No we are not done.”

“I don't see the resemblance.”

“I'm standing right here.”

“That's a very personal question!”

“We like children more than puppies.”

“I have no response.”

“Black people's hair is often curly.”

“We like boys very much.”

“He is priceless.”

“And because our son was there!”

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Attachment Progress

I am amazed at the progress with attachment N has made since we met him!

When we first met him he:

--had never had a bottle before
--didn't care who was holding him or playing with him
--wouldn't let go of a toy for anything!
--crawled everywhere
--refused to put anything in his own mouth; not fingers, not toys, not food
--hadn't yet had solid food
--screamed, cried, kicked and flailed his arms when we tried to put him to sleep
--woke up many, many times a night
--smacked himself on the head/face as a self-soothing technique


He quickly moved to:

--wanting bottles constantly, and cuddling close while taking them
--being very shy and unhappy when anyone other than Mom or Dad was holding him or talking to him
--dropping toys constantly in favor of grabbing something else!
--started taking steps
--started putting food in his mouth and chewing on toys
--started eating baby food, moved on to puffs
--falling asleep faster and easier
--sleeping for longer stretches at a time
--not hitting himself at all


Today he:

--wants bottles, but is only taking 3 or 4 a day
--willingly going to grandparents, giving others high fives, smiling at people, etc, but still very attached to his mom and dad
--climbs to get to whatever he wants ;)
--is running!
--is feeding himself table food and finding all sorts of things around the house to taste ;)
--is exclusively eating table food and drinking from a sippy cup (still also gets about 3 bottles a day)
--falls asleep in his own bed within a few minutes of being put down (usually)
--frequently sleeps through the night; sometimes waking up once or twice, but it's rare for it to be more than that
--still not hitting himself


He also:

--says "mama" and "dada"
--has names for his brothers
--signs the words for "eat", "drink", "all done", and "sleepy"
--says "I love you", though it comes out more, "ah va lou!"
--says "baba" for bottle
--waves bye-bye
--blows kisses
--tries to blow out the candles at the dinner table
--throws regular temper tantrums when he doesn't get his way
--climbs onto the furniture
--checks to see if you're watching before trying to touch something he knows is a "no-no"
--is starting to repeat words
--gives hugs and puts his face up to your lips to receive a kiss

What a wonderful blessing from God to be mommy to this beautiful little boy!! He has come so far in such a short time, and it's a joy to watch him grow.

~J