Please don't tell me his behavior is normal.
I have quite a few adoption experts who will tell you it's not.
I have a therapist who knows my son and agrees completely that it's not normal.
when I share that we've had a rough day
don't tell me that all two year olds have rough days
as though I didn't know.
Please don't tell me that all two year olds throw temper tantrums.
I know that all two year olds want Mommy's attention.
A lot of it.
You don't see the reason behind the tantrums
the cause for his screaming when I walk out of the room.
His fear of abandonment.
His fear that if he doesn't stay in complete control
his world will come crashing down.
You don't see him hug and love everyone else
but refuse to hug his own mom.
Or scream literally
You don't see him hug, kiss, and cuddle
and then hit Mom in the face
because he is afraid
of real attachment.
You don't see his anxiety,
And it's okay that you don't see it
It's not your job to see it.
It's my job.
But please don't doubt my words.
For when you tell me his behavior is normal
After I've opened up to share
I feel I have no support.